The other day, David, myself and our two toddlers were sitting in our car in a Starbucks drive through. Things had gotten pretty tense and frustrating. The driver’s side window was down, Blake (2) was screaming loudly, Logan (3) was antagonizing him, and at one point I reached back, gave one of them a little swat and yelled as well. I don’t remember the details, but it was not one of our best moments as parents, and children.
We rolled up to the window to pay. Instead of accepting our card, the barista handed us a business card, smiled, and said “The car ahead of you paid for your drinks, and wanted to give you this.” We of course said thank you, and as we drove away David said to me, “Their baby only lived for 3 months.” I was pretty shocked by this and asked him what he was talking about / how he could know that, and he explained he saw it on their back window. I looked down at the business card I was holding, which said “This Random Act of Kindness… Done in Loving Memory of our Beautiful Child, Kaycee Elizabeth Williams” with a website on the back, KayceesHope.org.
The entire drive home I was struggling not to cry. I didn’t know anything about this family except that they had lost their 3 month old baby girl, and some kind person bought our drinks when we were obviously struggling with our own children. I instantly felt contrite and extremely grateful for my boys. This family lost their daughter and would give anything to have the opportunity to sit with her in the car, and here I was, in the midst of unnecessary contention with mine.
When we got home, I went to the website and read Kaycee’s story. Kaycee was a perfectly healthy, beautiful baby girl, who died suddenly on her 3 month birthday, due to SIDS. Their story is every parent’s nightmare, and really shook me deeply. They used their loss to develop a passion and dedication to raise awareness and money to fund SIDS research.* One thing they do to raise money is a 5K Run / Walk, which I will definitely be joining next year.
I don’t know if the person in the van that day bought our drinks because they would have for any person behind them at the time, or if they saw or heard how much we were struggling with our kids and wanted to make a difference. Either way, it was an act of kindness that touched our hearts, and will hopefully reach many people.
If Kaycee’s family is reading this, Thank You, and stay strong!
*For those who don’t know much about SIDS, neither does modern science and medicine! It stands for Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, and is the leading cause of death for babies one month to one year old, claiming more than 2300 lives each year. SIDS is not caused by suffocation, choking or smothering, and it cannot be predicted or prevented. Basically we do not know what causes it. Doctors only have a slight idea of some things you can do to help prevent it, but even those are not a guarantee.